tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post8103302914588875586..comments2023-04-15T05:47:49.478-05:00Comments on J. R. Nova: A Rant on Social Anxiety DisorderAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-31057720865423649002019-08-24T06:57:47.815-05:002019-08-24T06:57:47.815-05:00Great post mate, thank you for the valuable and us...Great post mate, thank you for the valuable and useful information. Keep up the good work! 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Moreover, to cure this disease sharing your problem is very important. The first step is to speak to someone that you trust about how you are feeling. This could be a teacher, a parent, a relative or another adult that you trust. Talking to someone will reduce the pressure of anxiety and stress, it may also help you to realize that you are not alone in how you are feeling. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12341195024758908700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-15923253728682779692012-06-11T12:47:14.627-05:002012-06-11T12:47:14.627-05:00I don't ever remember manipulating anyone, not...I don't ever remember manipulating anyone, not consciously, but I've definitely been forced to understand people better.<br /><br />I think many millions, billions, of people have an everyday fear of not having control over their lives, or the world, and I think this causes a lot of problems for them, but that doesn't seem to be the problem related to the acute symptoms of SA. My current theory, which I'm starting to believe in more and more is that SA, at least for most people, is a coping mechanism in and of itself, the ego unconsciously trying to keep us from situations we feel will harm us. It's illogical in that way, because there are people who have phobias for situations where they are in total control. But that's just MY theory. It may apply to my own life more than it applies to others'.<br /><br />Why I hold this theory is because from my earliest memories I was an introvert, and expressed a deep need to be by myself. But I was not afraid of the world--I just didn't want to be bothered while I did my own thing, and yet sometimes, many times in fact, I enjoyed being around people so long as it was on my own terms. As I got older and life got more stressful, and I became a teenager, my anxiety developed at least partly as a response to that need to be sheltered, or to be by myself. Then I became scared, a side-effect of whatever internal mechanism exists in me that demands solitude.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-23718764517679807782012-06-10T23:56:40.209-05:002012-06-10T23:56:40.209-05:00I think I learned to cope with social anxiety at a...I think I learned to cope with social anxiety at an early age with manipulation. I learned to categorize human beings by what they wanted, and then I took power over any situation by having more knowledge than others. <br /><br />but this isn't really healthy, living like Machiavelli... and eventually I put this bad habit away, but if I feel threatened in a social environment, I just bring back the old habits and assert my authority over everyone. maybe this coping mechanism exist more in my head than reality, but regardless of the real world proof I have of understanding most people better than they know themselves... regardless of all of the moral issues of manipulation... it works to calm me down.<br /><br />Tell me, is SA spawned from a lack of control? or FEAR of a lack of control? When does it start for most people and why? is there a common denominator? why did it start for you? was it a constant from early childhood?<br /><br />I'm a curious SOB, don't answer anything you don't feel like.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10081287340656426528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-83420126506169620292012-05-26T11:04:28.523-05:002012-05-26T11:04:28.523-05:00I'm very happy to hear that you've been ab...I'm very happy to hear that you've been able to improve after stopping medication. Makes me wonder if they were part of the problem...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-2485631688494759942012-05-26T01:20:17.819-05:002012-05-26T01:20:17.819-05:00I have been on medication on and off for 31 years....I have been on medication on and off for 31 years. Around Christmas just few months ago and although I was on very high dosages of anti depressants, tranquilizers and mood stabilizers for over 5 years, I was feeling horrible and was suicidal. It was impossible to increase my dosages more and the doctor decided I must be in hospital. That day, I decided to stop everything and I did. I don't take anything now, and I'm not visiting the psychiatrist anymore.Nikky44https://www.blogger.com/profile/06725453458357123087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-6651361713644270532012-05-25T17:59:04.468-05:002012-05-25T17:59:04.468-05:00Right on!Right on!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-76251910485081582772012-05-25T16:20:49.913-05:002012-05-25T16:20:49.913-05:00JR, thank you so much for sharing this. My daught...JR, thank you so much for sharing this. My daughter suffers from stress/anxiety disorder and I she has your outlook on things. It is a horrible thing for a mom to watch their child have a panic attack and not be able to do anything for them. Or to watch them get stressed over something that seems trivial to everyone else around them. She tells people 'that's the way she's wired', but it doesn't change WHO I am. <br />Wonderful post and I enjoyed my visit today ☺Mary Hudak-Collins livingthescripture.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18181851742870395058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-33375055295868268062012-05-25T12:35:26.473-05:002012-05-25T12:35:26.473-05:00You're so very welcome, Nikky! I'm with yo...You're so very welcome, Nikky! I'm with you on meds. I've done without them for four years and I cannot be happier because of that. Cognitive therapy and Taoism is enough for me, at least at this point in my life.<br /><br />And I'm both honored and stoked that you've gotten something out of this, especially a fellow sufferer!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-9627857128591048902012-05-25T12:33:19.747-05:002012-05-25T12:33:19.747-05:00Thanks, Anne!Thanks, Anne!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-22267781919493699482012-05-25T12:32:45.013-05:002012-05-25T12:32:45.013-05:00My mom has suffered anxiety for years and has gott...My mom has suffered anxiety for years and has gotten over most of it and she says "because I did, so can you." I disagree with her on that (just because she did it part), but happiness is not impossible!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-82829844648401230442012-05-25T11:07:51.519-05:002012-05-25T11:07:51.519-05:00Great post, JR!
I suffer from depression (taking ...Great post, JR!<br /><br />I suffer from depression (taking anti-depressants) and in the past, severe anxiety attacks. And yes, it is difficult to have these illnesses. But it is still through our own willpower that we can get through them and lead normal, happy lives. The illness is not our choice--it's part of circumstance. But how we react towards our illness and all of its effects--our choice.<br /><br />I do hope the others who are going through the same thing would think the way you do, JR. :-)Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10328342211129410370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-25534796137290821342012-05-25T10:35:15.393-05:002012-05-25T10:35:15.393-05:00We all have our own little insecurities or disorde...We all have our own little insecurities or disorder and your writing about it makes half the struggle (if it even is a struggle, maybe for others) done. Good for you!Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15640511681168230116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-12878221103598779852012-05-25T02:30:59.836-05:002012-05-25T02:30:59.836-05:00That IS a perfect post!! It is for me. I suffer fr...That IS a perfect post!! It is for me. I suffer from severe anxiety and severe depression, and I know that what you are describing as your way of dealing with it is the best way, much better than medication or any treatment. It starts inside. No one can talk to use the way we talk to ourselves. No one knows how to calm our fear as much as we know what calms our fear. <br />Thank you for sharing. I think it's perfect!Nikky44https://www.blogger.com/profile/06725453458357123087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-29426636899436738132012-05-25T01:12:17.178-05:002012-05-25T01:12:17.178-05:00Thank you :)
I agree, once we accept ourselves fo...Thank you :)<br /><br />I agree, once we accept ourselves for who we are, the doors open as if by magic on a different world, one in which some pretty terrible things before become positives and enhance who we are. We can find ways to use the bad to our advantage, or at the very least grow stronger by it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-69719137582748944212012-05-25T01:10:51.427-05:002012-05-25T01:10:51.427-05:00Thank you so much, Mari. "People" really...Thank you so much, Mari. "People" really aren't that concerned with us.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-28805432885754713602012-05-25T00:45:37.788-05:002012-05-25T00:45:37.788-05:00Thank you for sharing, JR. I think a lot depends o...Thank you for sharing, JR. I think a lot depends on our self-esteem and acceptance of self. Once we come to accept ourselves, we learn ways in which to be happy and to grow. I can see that you have done just that and applaud you for it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-53269539682897500562012-05-24T21:56:53.526-05:002012-05-24T21:56:53.526-05:00I've never had to deal with those problems. Y...I've never had to deal with those problems. Yes, I've been depressed when nothing seemed to help my allergies that then caused illness after illness. As soon as I could breathe again (dry, desert air) that went away. Almost went into a panic attack when I was fourteen and worried about what people might think and then realized "people" were too busy with their own problems to care about any that I might have. What a relief. It never bothered me again. <br /><br />I'm thrilled you had the courage and intellect to plot your own course. Your intellect and the ability to analyze kept you from going into the self-pity portion. Blessings, and if it makes you feel better, smile or laugh. Both are good.Mari Collierhttp://www.maricollier.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-48545723008311185352012-05-24T21:56:19.301-05:002012-05-24T21:56:19.301-05:00That's giving me a lot to think about, Anna!That's giving me a lot to think about, Anna!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-11810540895514475262012-05-24T19:04:22.507-05:002012-05-24T19:04:22.507-05:00Like you say, you had to learn how to deal with yo...Like you say, you had to learn how to deal with your problem, you had to learn what worked for you. Everyone does to some degree, but this learning starts at a surprisingly young age. I'm sure there was something about what your parents did that taught you to stand on your own two feet (so to speak), just as I'm sure many of these other people have learned the way of wo and self pity, and not how to dig themselves out of the hole they find themselves in.Anna L. Wallshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00144458783329501190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-84625795543096896842012-05-24T16:15:20.746-05:002012-05-24T16:15:20.746-05:00I've never heard of SA being chemically induce...I've never heard of SA being chemically induced but I can see how it could be, tinkering with how the brain operates can linger on long after the drugs are taken away. I have heard of drug abuse (heroin for instance) instigating panic attacks. The bassist of Guns N Roses, Duff McKagan was a drug user, and started having panic attacks when he was 17/18. Not SA, though, obviously. Dude performed in front of crowds of 100,000. But he couldn't fly without getting drunk enough to pass out once he got on the plane because he would freak out in the tight space.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-78645561444982903162012-05-24T16:12:49.630-05:002012-05-24T16:12:49.630-05:00They were things I've thought about and though...They were things I've thought about and thought about again before I wrote this and again before I published, lol. I know what a burden it can be to be nagged to do things, but I also know the mind of a pessimistic depressed phobic. Anything and everything that could possibly be construed as negative will be! Some complaints are valid, but most aren't. For instance when a person thinks "no one cares about me." It's often not because no one does, but because the person who thought the thought isn't recognizing the compassionate signals coming from others. We're painting reality with our negative thoughts, not seeing what is actually there to be seen. Not understanding what others are going through, as well.<br /><br />We may see a friend who doesn't wave at us and get depressed and think he hates us or that we did something wrong, or perhaps that person just didn't see us. It happens a LOT that way.<br /><br />Or we assume that other people are fully capable of reaching out, but from their perspective they really only see us, and people with anxiety disorders are well known, if they're known for anything, for putting up impenetrable fencing around themselves so that they turn people off from reaching out to them. It's incredibly difficult to try to get to know someone who sits in a corner and doesn't speak, or when he speaks mumbles. It actually makes people think they don't want to talk.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04454406837183787620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-20631728469127040692012-05-24T14:03:18.347-05:002012-05-24T14:03:18.347-05:00I was on pills for half a year that CAUSED S.A.
It...I was on pills for half a year that CAUSED S.A.<br />It was chemically induced.<br />The doctor kept saying it was a 'pre-existing condition'.siggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07915007144262343710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4891001968149686306.post-57538114036077738152012-05-24T14:00:15.584-05:002012-05-24T14:00:15.584-05:00Just a thought - most any time I have heard "...Just a thought - most any time I have heard "cheer up" or "why can't you just MAKE yourself do it" it wasn't meant in a supportive way but in a snappy put-down you're-just-whining way. Maybe that's the subtext you're missing when you read these fora? <br /><br />I also think there's a difference between "I've never skydived because I'm afraid to try" and "I can't go to the grocery store because I'm afraid of the people there" - it's about the level of impairment. People can't imagine being afraid of things they take for granted, for the most part.<br /><br />It sounds like you are a very strong, very lucky individual. These are just some additional perspectives to ponder. Great read :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com